An unspoken question we all struggle with from time to time, as we navigate the different circumstances and seasons in our lives. Just when we think we know who we are, our situations change, relationships alter, and we realize that yet again we have allowed people and experiences to identify who we are. But your identity is not in what you do or where you are — it is in whose you are.
When I was single, my identity was based around my career and relationships. Then I received a new badge called wife, then mother, but I had to learn that I am not defined by any label. I had to embrace a journey that would remove comparisons and pressures, determining to find who it is God made me to be.
Do you remember the story of Jacob? His name literally meant “deceiver.” His pushy mother caused him to strive after his brother’s inheritance, and never content with where he was or who he was, he wore disguises, lied, and eventually had to flee from his home. Jacob can be a picture of our own struggles with identity. We can spend so much time dancing to other people’s tunes played for us by peers, friends, and family, when really there’s only one tune we should be listening to.
Jacob lived his life forcing things, trying to be who he was never called to be. But one day he separated from all the other voices surrounding him and realized, “Surely the presence of God is here and I was not aware of it” Genesis 28 v16. Is that where you are living? So aware of others that you can’t hear the One who created you? He isn’t labelling you, He is loving you as you are, longing for you to uncover all the beautiful things He has placed in you. You don’t need to worry — you are His and all that He made you to be will be discovered when you only trust Him.
I love how Jacob’s story unfolds. After his separation comes a life lesson. As he serves Laban who was a “deceiver,” he sees, “This is not who I am, I do not fit this name I have been given’’, and he begins to build his life in his true identity. He discovers he is a hard worker, a faithful servant, a loving husband, and a reliable manager. He had always had this potential, but under other’s labels, he had never found out who he was made to be. One night, as he is about to return to see his family, there is a wrestle that takes place over a question God asks him. God asks, “What is your name?” He answers, “Jacob.” Then God says, “Your name is no longer Jacob. From now on it’s Israel; you’ve wrestled with God and you’ve come through” Genesis 32v27-28. God renamed Jacob in accordance with his true identity.
So I urge you, my friend, to seek your true identity in Christ. It is a journey we all must make to find out who we are in Him. Jacob gained a limp that day from his wrestle, and this gave him his own unique walk. Maybe it is time for you to embrace your own wrestle. A wrestle that will remove all labels and rename you in accordance with your destiny. It may be uncomfortable, but the unique walk it will give you is more than worth it!
So I urge you my friend to find your own identity, it is a journey we all must make to really find out who we are in him. Jacob gained a limp that day from his wrestle and this gave him his own unique walk. Maybe it is time for you to embrace your own wrestle. A wrestle that will remove all labels and rename you in accordance with your destiny. It may be uncomfortable but the unique walk it will give you is more than worth it!